My eyes are dry My faith is old My heart is hard My prayers are cold And I know how I ought to be Alive to You and dead to me
But what can be done For an old heart like mine Soften it up With oil and wine The oil is You, Your Spirit of love Please wash me anew With the wine of Your Blood
I love honest prayers. When you don’t feel close to God or in actuality aren’t “close” to God, the truth is that he’s not far from us. Honestly, this is where I’ve been lately but honest prayers are always better than “right” prayers.
reblog: What We Have Here Is A Failure To Communicate
Originally posted on May 1, 2010
The other night, Patrick and I stopped at a gas station just outside Nashville on our way home from the Montgomery Gentry video shoot. I went inside to grab some snacks for the late night drive home and my interaction with the attendant (we’ll call him George) went something Iike this:
George: Is that gonna do it for ya?
Me: Yep. (Pause) Oh, and this Powerbar. Don’t know why I kept it in my hand.
George: Do you have cash? Cause you can’t pay with a credit or debit card for that.
Me: I can’t use my debit card?
George: Not for that. Everything else is fine except for that. It’s against the law to pay for it with a credit card.
Me: It’s against the law to pay for the Powerbar with my credit card? That’s the silliest thing I’ve ever heard.
George: Where are you from, son?
Me: Birmingham. But why does that matter?
George: Well, up here it’s illegal to pay for that with a credit or debit card.
Me: That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. Why in the world would that be illegal?
George: Well, they probably don’t want people running up debt by coming in here buying a bunch of them all at the same time.
Me: That’s hilarious! Stupidest law I’ve ever heard of in my life. I can’t believe it’s illegal in Tennessee to pay for a Powerbar with my credit or debit card no matter how many I want to buy at one time. I should be able to buy as many as I want even if in this case it only happens to be one.
George: Did you say “Powerbar?” I thought you said “PowerBall.”
Funny how one small misunderstood word can change an entire conversation. Communication would be much more effective if we would just back up and clarify what we said instead of expecting the other person to just magically understand where we’re coming from.
“There is nothing that can replace the absence of someone dear to us, and one should not even attempt to do so. One must simply hold out and endure it. At first that sounds very hard, but at the same time it is also a great comfort. For to the extent the emptiness truly remains unfilled one remains connected to the other person through it. It is wrong to say that God fills the emptiness. God in no way fills it but much more leaves it precisely unfilled and thus helps us preserve — even in pain — the authentic relationship. Further more, the more beautiful and full the remembrances, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude transforms the torment of memory into silent joy. One bears what was lovely in the past not as a thorn but as a precious gift deep within, a hidden treasure of which one can always be certain.”— Dietrich Bonhoeffer